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THE TRIBUNE, NOVEMBER 23, 2011
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Al-Anon: helping find serenity
All Black Zac Guildford's behaviour in Rarotonga has once again thrown New Zealand's problems with alcohol into the spotlight.
Palmerston North Al-Anon invites Judith Lacy to its weekly meeting.
Al-Anon meetings start and end
with the Serenity Prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot
Courage to change the things I
And wisdom to know the
is said for every
Sam's husband had been diag-
nosed with cancer. Though devas-
tated, Sam did not think it was
her fault, and knew the Cancer
Society could provide support.
Sam's wife was an alcoholic.
Sometimes Sam thought it was
his fault and he would try and
control his wife's drinking. He did
not know where to get support.
Two different situations but two
people in need, as are their loved
Al-Anon Family Groups seek to
help families of alcoholics through
support and by practising The
Twelve Steps -- the same pro-
gramme used by Alcoholics
Anonymous -- and by welcoming
and giving comfort to families of
Of the five people present the
night I visited, one person was
there for the first time; another
had been going for decades.
Confidentiality is a big part of
Al-Anon meetings so in this
article we focus on what the atten-
dees said about Al-Anon rather
than details of their personal
There's no instant in Al-Anon,
only the coffee,'' a long-time mem-
She is a grateful'' member but
was reluctant to attend at first -- it
was the encouragement of a friend
that got her in the door.
She thought the 12-step course
of action was the Ten
Commandments with two more
slipped in, but the Al-Anon pro-
gramme eventually clicked.
She now sees alcoholism as a
disease: she did not cause her
loved one to become an alcoholic
and she could not control them or
cure them -- a philosophy known
as the three Cs.
An alcoholic is a sick person,
[My husband] wasn't going to
get better with me screaming at
him or being mean; he was sick.''
She advised the newer members
to go back to the day they decided
they would be with their mate:
that is the person they love, not
the person in the trap of a drug.
A woman who has been going a
few months had obviously come a
long way in terms of understand-
ing Al-Anon and implementing
strategies to cope with her loved
When she was told about Al-
Anon she was reluctant to attend,
thinking, I'm not the alcoholic, I
don't need to go to that''.
She now wishes she had found
Al-Anon, which she describes as
an inspirational support group of
people affected by the same issue,
two years ago.
She now understands para-
graph three in Al-Anon's welcome
about how things become dis-
torted by trying to force
situations, and how the loved ones
of alcoholics become irritable and
unreasonable without knowing it.
Before she did not have the
capability to not react, but now
she can step back.
I think I'm over looking for the
empties now,'' she says.
Last Thursday pain was shared,
stories told, hope given and infor-
There were tears and tissues on
hand to dry them, laughs -- includ-
ing over how difficult it is to pro-
nounce unanimity'', chocolate
biscuits to be savoured, and
bonding between two women who
had never met before.
A man who has been going to
Al-Anon for years said people who
live with alcoholics become brow-
beaters and people-pleasers, but
he learnt he had to change.
To me, this programme is
about knowing yourself and know-
ing what you can do and can't do.''
Sobriety has arrived in his
relationship, but it was not per-
He had come to Al-Anon want-
ing to get the alcoholic in his life
sober, but had learnt about him-
self and was still learning.
Taking things a day at a time
It's a simple programme for
complicated people and it does
take time. But I'll tell you what,
it's not hard: you don't have to run
a test; you don't have to know all
Phone 0508 425 2666 or visit the
Support for alcoholics' families
Al-Anon was formed in 1951 by
American Lois Wilson, wife of
Alcoholics Anonymous co-
founder Bill Wilson. She realised
wives of alcoholics needed sup-
Al-Anon Family Groups were
established in New Zealand in
1954, and there are now more
than 90 nationwide.
Al-Anon literature says its
meetings are for people who
don't like meetings.
It offers a safe place where
healing and recovery can begin
and if people do not feel comfort-
able sharing they can simply say
People who attend Al-Anon
meetings have the right to be
heard but not the right to domi-
nate meetings -- everyone has an
No-one tells attendees what to
do or how to feel and they learn
to listen to others with respect,
the welcome material says.
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